Well, well, well. Look who needs assistance with their mental health. Me.
You, too? Shit, you should’ve just said so. I’ve seen a few different therapists over the years and have some tips to offer.
Advice #1: Don’t pick a hot one.
It’s really difficult to tell another human, a stranger at that, the inner workings of your mind when all you can think about is shagging them. You definitely won’t want to tell them about embarrassing moments or insecurities if their beautiful face is staring back at you. You don’t have to pick an ugly psychologist, just one you won’t feel sexually attracted to.
Advice #2: Verify that they’re legit.
Yes, I’ve encountered an individual that claimed to be a clinical psychologist when they did not possess that qualification. It (apparently) happens – maybe just to me. Either way, confirm that they’re licensed and can assist you. There are mental health counselors, psychologists, and psychiatrists. They’re trained to handle different situations. Look into all of them and decide which would be best for you and your needs.
Advice #3: Make sure they’re cool.
There’s nothing worse than a shitty therapist. You have to feel them out the first few sessions and see what they’re about. Are they homophobic? Next. Not funny? Next. Do that thing where they leave their mouth open all of the time? Next. Just make sure you find one you vibe with and could see yourself establishing a long-term professional relationship with. Don’t forget – they’re not your friend. They don’t have to be the coolest motherfucker on earth. They just have to make you feel comfortable.
Advice #4: Check their rates.
Therapy can be fucking expensive. Depending on your insurance, you might just have to pay a small copay fee. If you don’t have insurance, the cost per session could be anywhere between $10 and $200. BetterHelp offers affordable therapy but is provided by mental health counselors and not psychologists. Some cities have mental health clinics that offer affordable psychologists but depend on the state. If you’re a college student (undergrad or grad), your university may have free or very affordable psychologists available.
Advice #5: Be receptive.
They’ll be nice and comforting. They’ll also shit on you sometimes. You’re not perfect – actually, you’re fucked up, just like everyone else on this planet. You’re not going to like what they say sometimes. Shit, it took me two and a half years to open up to my college therapist. Sometimes he’d say some shit, and I would just get tight. He had a valid point, though. I just had to let my stubborn ass think and process.
Most importantly, if you’re looking to get a therapist, make sure you want and are ready to heal and grow. It’s not easy to ask for help and actively work on yourself. It takes a lot of courage to be open and vulnerable. If you got the balls to do so, go to therapy.